Dear Reader,

A few years ago, a friend of mine was stuck in a job she absolutely hated.

Every Sunday night, the anxiety would creep in. By Monday morning, she felt like she was being swallowed whole. Meetings that should’ve been emails. A boss who made her question her own intelligence. Work that drained her, suffocated her, and made her feel small.

She’d tell me over coffee, “I just need to let it go. I need to stop being so angry. I need to move on.”

But she didn’t.

Every time she thought about quitting, something pulled her back. The paycheck. The security. The fear of the unknown.

And so she stayed.

And hated it.

And tried harder to let it go.

But here’s the thing: you don’t let go. “It” lets you go—when it’s damn well ready.

Letting go doesn’t work the way you think it does.

We love the idea of letting go. We imagine it as a single, clean-cut moment. A deep breath. A decision. A release.

But that’s not how it happens. It’s simply an intention you set. And then you wait.

Letting go isn’t a button you press. It’s not something you force.

It’s something that works on you, quietly, over time.

Until one day, it just... leaves.

I remember the exact moment my friend finally let go.

She was standing in the break room, holding a cup of coffee, listening to her boss ramble about some meaningless deadline. The same kind of conversation she’d had a hundred times before.

But this time? She felt nothing.

No frustration. No resentment. No inner monologue about how much she hated it.

Just... stillness.

And that’s when she knew: she was done.

Not in an explosive, storm-out-the-door kind of way. Not in an “I finally figured out how to let go” kind of way.

Just done in the way that mattered most.

The job had finally let her go.

We think letting go is something we do. But in reality, it’s something that happens to us when we’re finally ready—even if we don’t realize it.

Sometimes, it’s a slow unraveling.
Sometimes, it’s a quiet shift in the middle of a conversation.
Sometimes, it happens when we’re not even paying attention.

We don’t have to force it. We don’t have to chase it.

We just have to live through it until the day comes when we look at the thing that used to own us—the ex, the job, the resentment, the fear—and realize we simply don’t care anymore.

And that’s when we’re free.

So if you’re in the thick of it right now, if you’re struggling to “let go” of something—don’t try so hard.

Do what you need to do. Feel what you need to feel. And trust that one day, without warning, it will let you go.

And you probably won’t even notice when it happens.

What’s something you thought you’d never let go of—but one day, you just did? Hit reply and tell me. I read every response.

Courage, truth, and infinite love,

I don’t believe in magic, but I know that it works! Magic is not a belief system, it’s a practice that works. Don’t believe me? Come try it out. If it doesn’t work, you lose nothing. But if it does… your dream life is about to begin! About Me →

“El poder está en la acción.”

— Maritza Schafer

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