I’ve been noticing a trend on social media where people talk about how to get what you want. And they say that beyond the manifestation, the vision board, the meditation, the affirmations, making a change is about identity. It goes something like: become the person who already has what you want. How does the woman who's completely satisfied in her relationship think, feel, behave, desire?What does the business owner who's actually thriving act like?The career person landing the promotions and...
2 days ago • 3 min read
Someone wrote in with a question I want to answer publicly, because I guarantee you're not the only one sitting with it. She said: I have noticed that when I think of something, it is appearing in my reality the same day or at the very least within a week. It's freaking me out because I don’t understand how I am doing this and I don’t understand what this ability is called. Here's my read, right up front: She's not doing this. This is happening to her. Not the same thing. I get why this...
9 days ago • 2 min read
I asked you all last week what's stressing you out, and unsurprisingly, money came up, over and over. Money is one of the most stressful things a person deals with, and believe it or not, it's not really about how much you have. People who are barely making it worry about money. Obviously. But people with a lot of money worry about it too. They fight about it with their family. They feel disconnected from most of the world because their reality doesn't match anyone else's. A billionaire is...
16 days ago • 3 min read
Last weekend was solstice, and for those of you that don't know, it's the magical holiday when days are the longest in the northern hemisphere, and nights are the longest south of the equator. I did a magical ritual with a witch that I've been celebrating solstices with for the last 20 years. We're dear, dear friends, but very different people. She has a deep artistic bent, and loves crafts. She always has beads and glue and goo and weird paints. I…don’t. When she texted me last week to say,...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
This week Elon Musk became the first trillionaire in human history. A trillionaire. I don't actually understand what that means. A million dollars I can kind of understand. A billion dollars already feels fake. A trillion dollars is just a word. My brain can't hold it. I don't think the human brain evolved to comprehend numbers that large. What I do understand is that it's evidence we're doing something very, very wrong. One of the stories I was told growing up is that people work, contribute...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
There are three magical axioms I live by and that all of my students in Liberation Magic get to learn. Today, I want to share a really deep concept embedded in one of them. The axiom goes: speaking truth is the path to liberation. While it sounds kind of grandiose (and it can absolutely be applied to vast societal change, as in ‘speaking truth to power’), what's more practical for most people in their everyday lives is the ability to admit their own truth to themselves, and then speak it....
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
I've been thinking about forgiveness a lot lately. One of my students in Liberation Magic brought it up, I've been sitting with some things I'm hurt about myself, and a few friends have been wrestling with it too. I don't know what it is, it's just in the air right now. This question of: what does it actually mean to forgive? Forgiveness is usually understood as letting go of the bad blood between you and whoever or whatever wronged you. And that's pretty accurate! But I think there are some...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
What if every single day of your life you woke up in the morning with the absolute power to make your life easier, more tolerable? Maybe even better and more enjoyable? Wouldn’t you take it? To me, that is what God is: the daily choice to live as if. To live as if love was the deepest influence in my life, to live as if meaning was embedded in everything that happens, to live as if I have power over myself and choose to do wonderful things with it. Many people who know me, know my commitment...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Last week I wrote that in order to get what you want, you have to want what you have. And one of you sent me a question so good I had to write a whole letter about it. The question was essentially this: what about people in abusive situations? Are you saying they should just accept it? No. And I want to be really clear about something, because I think this word — acceptance — gets misunderstood in the worst possible way. Accepting something is not approving of it. Accepting something doesn't...
2 months ago • 3 min read